Somewhere around 1 year and 7 months, you developed a fear of children..especially the really energetic ones!!( considering that 9 out of the 10 kids you know belong to that category, things werent really in your favour😂😂)You would burst into tears and go into panic mode if you didn’t have Dada or me in such situations.
Let me be honest here,this came as a total surprise because up until then you had no such issues and also because both Fahi and myself are very social people with a large group of friends which means you have been exposed to such gatherings right from day 1. The weird bit was that you were perfectly fine with adults and having any number of them around you but not children. You loved/love dancing to loud music with 10-11 adults surrounding you but nope, not children!( you’ve gotten it all wrong kid! Children are perfect.. it’s the adults you should be afraid 😑).Friends told me it was just a phase and even though i knew that in my mind.I was still frustrated, wondering when you would get out of this phase or if you would ever.
Fast forward to today. You are crying because you can’t spot fahi or me. I completely lose my shit( inside my head).. 1 year and nothing has changed..what is it?why is this phase taking so long? Other kids your age seem so much more independent.What am i doing wrong? What is it that you are feeling? Why am i not able to help you out of it etc etc.
Thankfully,the Mister shakes me back to my senses with his words. ‘Nikhi, think of how far Aari has come.. remember how it used to be and think of how it is now. He may not be as independent as some of the other kids..but keeping that aside.. can’t you see the difference? And that gets me thinking. There is such a huge difference!! Of course there is!!! From refusing to play with other kids, you now run around with everyone.. From crying everytime a child touched you or hugged you, you now let them hug you and sometimes return a hug too. (And if you are really comfortable with the kid you even roll on the floor and lie on them!! Not sure how comfortable the other kid is though!!) .. From being someone who just sat on my lap at most gatherings,you now run around and occasionally look up to ensure that we are still there. From someone who refused to go a few steps away from us, you are now starting to expand the distance.
So what if you need a little time to warm up.. So what if you need to assure yourself that we are still around …So what if you are not comfortable at large gatherings.I am super proud of how much you have achieved over the months. I am certain you will get out if this phase entirely at some point with a little encouragement and push from our side.
Like someone once said, a comfort zone is a beautiful place to stay but nothing is ever achieved there. Rest assured we will continue prodding you to step out of it.
Yes I may get impatient and frustrated at times but then that is one of the million reasons Fahi is around,isint it. To make me take that chill pill( even if he has to force it down my throat!!)
To put it in your words, ‘ Umma poud of you aai’ ( Umma proud of aari is what you mean to say but you are saying it the exact way i say it to you😂😂)
And to the few nasty people who comment or brand you based on this phase of yours, i very politely show them my middle finger.